By: Rabbi Ralph Messer
Regarding key relationships in your lives, no matter who they are with, it’s important to realize that it’s a process; a journey from “Point A” to “Point B”. If you are going to introduce the Torah, God’s Teaching and Instruction to someone, you’ll literally be taking them from one point to another point in life. That journey has to be one that hits a target and impacts your life. This is the number one area that I myself had to make adjustments to not long ago.
When you have six children, a ministry, and another full-time business, you can imagine how things can get a little stressful. At one time we had four secretaries working out of my home for STBM, and over 80 employees with Simchat Torah Beit Midrash (STBM) working in eight states. During that time, I was doing ministry at night and my business during the day. It was at that point in my life when God began to work mightily.
My wife, Maureen, was in charge of payroll and we were doing everything we could to keep the business going. God blessed us in a mighty way. However, we got to a point in our life where we couldn’t move on to the next level. It was then that God began to show me that I needed to manage my time in a different manner.
God says that the Torah is a goal we are journeying towards, the process and walk that God lays out for your life. It’s a journey or a process that God takes you through to reach a final destination. Yeshua is far more concerned about your journey as opposed to the destination. You can run right over the process of your journey and never enjoy it; or you can selectively choose the people with whom you will share the most precious thing in your life during the journey – time.
Your time and your journey are extremely important, because it is out of the journey that you will cultivate the disciplines, ideas, and the vision for your life. God offers you two things in life. They are the Torah (what I consider to be resources) and relationships. It’s crucial that you understand one thing. If you put resources ahead of your relationships, you’re going to fail in the journey of life. If the Torah becomes more important to you than your relationships, you’ve got the whole system flipped upside down!
God teaches us that the Torah is “written on your heart and mind.” It is out of your relationships that you generate resources for the journey of life. God says that the Torah is a light and lamp unto our path. The problem is that we are still plugged into the wall and are worshiping the light and the lamp and not the Torah giver. The Torah is simply guidance, direction and principles for the journey of life.
When you give up relationships for the Torah, you’re out of control, out of order, and your journey has just stopped. Your journey and success in life will be no more successful than your relationships with others. It is from your journey that your stories in life will come. It is out of my own journey that I’m able to share with you many important lessons gained from what has transpired in my life.
More important than knowing the commands of the Torah, is the process by which those commands effect how you treat others in your life.
“Then He said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:19
Yeshua said, “Follow Me and I will make you fishers of men.” It’s not about what we make ourselves, but what He makes us in the process of following Him. We are a society that emphasizes making ourselves. That thought comes straight from the Tower of Babel in Babylon where the people stated, “Let us make a name for ourselves.” IN the Kingdom of God it is Yahweh who makes us.
Internationally acclaimed Bible teacher, author, conference and motivational speaker, lecturer, educator, business consultant and Spirit-filled minister, Rabbi Ralph Messer is the President and Founder of Simchat Torah Beit Midrash® (STBM)―a congregation and a Torah school based in Colorado.